It is said that the Eskimos have 40-50 names for different kinds of snow. So why do we have one name for friend? If someone asks if you know a particular person, our answer is something like, “Oh, ya, he’s a friend of mine.” But aren’t they actually –
- Acquaintance. Someone you’ve met along the way. Someone you know a bit but is really more of an acquaintance than a friend.
- Grouper. Someone in your church or softball team or social group. You’re really more associated with them because of the group and you don’t connect much outside that group.
- Colleague. Someone you work with. Over time they may become good friends, but your connection is through work. Even if you leave that work place, that’s your connection.
- Drifts. These are friends that drift. At one time you were close, but for a variety of reasons your lives have drifted to different worlds and are not as connected now as you were at one point.
- Fallbacks. These are friends that no matter how long between seeing them, you fallback like you were never apart. We have a group that we played volleyball with years ago and we all had boys. Our Boys R Us group are fallbacks. When we get together it feels like we see them every day.
- Buddies. These are your close friends. Some have many, some have a few.
- Confidant. Your closest friend or two outside your significant other.
- Friend with benefits. I call her my wife.
The next time someone says, “Do you know this person?”
“Ya, he’s a grouper.”
“He’s a fish?”
“No, you see Eskimos have 40-50 names… Ya, he’s a friend of mine.”
So I close with these two thoughts. Can’t we all just be friends? And don’t eat tliyelin (yellow snow).